New Year, SAME me.

The New Year is a universal sign of hope, a sign of renewal. FINALLY after 365 days we can start fresh from any poor decisions we have made. From choices in food, choices in lifestyle, and choices to stay at the job we’ve always hated and wanted to quit- the New Year is our solution, our escape plan from our problems and imperfections.

“Maybe now I will put a little more effort into my school work. Maybe now I will start hitting the gym. Maybe now I will put effort into dating and make sure to be in a relationship before next holiday season.”

It’s exciting to think that NOW, with the arrival of a New Year,  we can start new and forget about our past mistakes. NOW we can press forward and accomplish our dreams. But the reality is you don’t have to wait for endless months to “start fresh” or diligently go after your goals. Every day is an opportunity to stop having your past dictate your life and to start seizing your future.

I don’t mean to be a pessimist, but the New Year’s holiday is a false hope that has become universally accepted as a “fresh start,” when the reality is this hope, this “fresh start,” is always at our finger tips. Every day that you wake up you can decide to make a great change and accomplish those goals you’ve had for years.

Gym memberships will double in the month of January and decline exponentially with every month that follows- because our motivation burns out soon after the exciting start of the year.

A problem with the “New Year, New Me Mentality” is the FOCUS of our New Year’s goals. Let’s be honest, for a majority of women the top two goals are to get fit/lose weight ("hopefully in time for summer") and to score an attractive and irresistible man… okay a cute guy…. okay a breathing male that can be shown off in pictures. This holiday has become more depressing than hopeful if you ask me. Our culture that obsesses over appearances and superficial things has dictated what should be a joyful occasion.

 You go into the New Year focusing on how many pounds you can lose, and dates you can go on. I challenge you to instead focus on ways to make YOU a better YOU. Not just a hotter you, but a more mature, intellectual, well-rounded, kind, compassionate, you. How can you be a better brother, sister, aunt, uncle, mother, father, friend, and person?

These are the things that truly matter. Our bodies are going to rot in the ground one day, but the memory of who we are, the impact we make on the souls around us, and our eternal destiny is forever.

So take care of your body and hit the gym because it’s HEALTHY, but remember also to put time into bettering other facets of yourself.

You have a purpose, a mission to fulfill this year and it does not just involve your weight or your appearance. It involves your career, your mind, and your heart.

Let’s ring in the New Year with a new perspective of what a fresh start really means.  

Hit the gym. Ask that girl out. Show that guy interest. Pray. Read. Succeed. Not next year. Not next week. Not tomorrow, but today. Because today is the only time we have.

Stop waiting for the right time to “set goals,” and start seizing your goals and the desires of your heart by making opportunities for yourself. Every day you wake up with breath in your lungs is an opportunity to better yourself and to better your life.  May your New Year be filled with many “fresh starts” and many goals- made and met.

As Always,

You are loved!